The 8 Steps to How to Be a Good Mentor or Mentee

We claim that a mentorship can be a life-changing experience – and it’s true. But, as with anything, the more you put into it, the more you’ll get out of it.

The hard-working women in our community know that if you put in the work, the results will come. So, when we launched , right on cue you asked us how to be good mentors and mentees to ensure you make the most of this life-changing opportunity.

We want mentorships to work as hard as the women in them. That’s why, out of the 170+ Academy courses included in your membership, we’ve curated a to help you be the best mentor or mentee you can be. 

No one can be the best at something straight away, so let’s take it step-by-step.

1. Understand why

For a deeper understanding of what can be achieved through Mentor Matching, check out . Clare Laurent is an executive coach and author specialising in women’s leadership development. Listen to (and get excited about) what she has to say about the power of mentoring.

2. Nurture the relationship

Getting into a mentorship is just like any other relationship. Sure, you won’t be wining and dining, but the relationship will have its own nuances and needs to be nurtured. In , journalist and broadcaster Harriet Minter and serial entrepreneur and presenter Emma Sexton share their top tips for making the most of a mentor-mentee relationship.

Top tip: If you’re just here for the mentoring content, skip to 4:39 in the video. But if you have a few extra minutes to spare, it's jam-packed with top tips for networking in general, too.

3. Set clear goals

You can’t score a goal unless you know where you’re shooting. Whether the mentee arrives to her first session with clear goals in mind or wanting her mentor’s guidance in setting them, it’s important for both parties to know how to set clear goals. Delivered by executive coach Helen Hatton, covers everything you need to know about setting goals in line with your authentic career vision.

4. Smash your goals

It’s all well and good setting goals but the hard part is making them a reality. If you don’t know where to start, don’t panic, we’ve got you covered. AllBright coach Nick Porter shares her step-by-step guide on defining your goals and creating a framework against which to deliver them in .

5. Be accountable

We don’t know about you but being held accountable by ourselves and our peers really helps us stay on track. In a mentor-mentee relationship, both women can help each other stay accountable. Learn how by listening to professional coach Julie Caruso’s advice on making your goals specific, measurable, relevant, and time-bound in .

6. Communicate authentically and effectively

Communication really is key. You could be the CEO of Google or a successful serial entrepreneur, but if your communications skills aren’t on point, your mentoring skills won’t be either. Luckily, Managing Director of La Prairie, Rosi Fernandez, is here to help boost your communication skills in .

7. Know your strengths

It’s human nature to talk about our weaknesses rather than our strengths. But we all have strengths – and knowing what you bring to the table brings a lot to the mentorship table. In , Olympic Gold Medal-winning hockey star Crista Cullen and entrepreneur Catherine Baker discuss the importance of women defining and owning their strengths in order to increase their confidence and progress at work.

8. Be confident

We know – it’s easier said than done. But we all have something to teach one another. Don’t just take it from us. Strategist, board advisor, speaker, and executive coach Gulnar Vaswanican help you stop from rearing its ugly head and holding you back. Pair that with hypnotherapist, mentor, and coach Chloe Brotheridge’s secrets and steps to a more confident you in and you’ll be itching to share all your knowledge, skills and experience with the sisterhood in no time.

Et voila! You’ve completed your eight-step cheat code to making the most of your mentorship.

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